• Extraverts tend to irritate Introverts by being too pushy,
    loud, and aggressive; and, by invading their space
    without getting permission.
  • Extraverts can also help Introverts by showing them
    how to develop their interactive skills and by mirroring
    objective reality for them.   
  • Introverts tend to irritate Extraverts by being too
    evasive, tentative, and withholding; and, by being too
  • Introverts can also help Extraverts by showing them
    how to develop their inner strength and by modeling
    individualistic interpretations, appraisal, and logic.


  • Perceivers tend to irritate Judgers by refusing to follow
    meet their deadlines.  
  • Perceivers can also help Judgers by showing them
    how to live in the present and by modeling tolerance for
    others views.   
  • Judgers tend to irritate Perceivers by refusing to see  
    what is in front of their faces; and, by getting hung up on
  • Judgers can also help Perceivers by showing them
    how to recognize events that have predictable
    outcomes and by modeling determination and  “follow-

  • Sensors tend to irritate Intuitives by being too literal,
    getting lost in the details; and, by not thinking enough
    about the future.  
  • Sensors can also help Intuitives by showing them
    how to fill in the blanks and by reminding them of the
    lessons of the past.        
  • Intuitives tend to irritate Sensors by being unrealistic
    dreamers, failing to stick to the facts; and, not doing
    what needs to be done now.
  • Intuitives can help Sensors by showing them how
    everything fits together and by teaching them how to
    plan for the future.


  • Feelers tend to irritate Thinkers by being misleading
    and manipulative, ignoring the logical consequences
    of their decisions, and blaming Thinkers for their own
    negative emotions.  
  • Feelers can also help Thinkers by showing them how
    to get in touch with  their feelings and by modeling
    empathy, compassion, and kindness.
  • Thinkers tend to irritate Feelers by being
    argumentative, ignoring the human consequences of
    their decisions, and blaming Feelers for their own
    lack of consideration.  
  • Thinkers can also help Feelers by showing them how
    short-term pain can produce long-term benefits and
    by modeling fairness, objectivity, and efficiency.

  • A major stumbling block to dealing, effectively, with differences in Personality Type preferences is to assume an
    antagonistic, “We versus Them” mentality.
  • It is equally as destructive to try to simply ignore the reality of the irritating effects that our type-specific behaviors
    can have on persons with other type preferences.  It can’t be done.
  • The answer, of course, is to recognize both the positive and the negative effects that we can have on one another.  
    And, it is well to remind ourselves of our need to be physically, emotionally, and mentally rested before we attempt to
    interact with persons, who do not share our type-preferences.